Listed below are some of the key elements I’ve unfolded so far about Self-Love and Self-Acceptance.

1. Learn From Your Living. St. Paul says that the Law is our Schoolmaster. I believe that our learning comes mainly from the experiences we have as we are living, and that our living teaches us about life’s laws. If you’ve read my book, then you are up for a hefty review of the laws of life that I share with you there.

As you are living your life, you are automatically unfolding exactly what you are supposed to learn and unfold. If you seek deeply in those experiences, you will gain their lesson. It’s a good idea to do this so you don’t have to keep repeating your lessons over and over because that gets boring – or very painful!

2. Be Conscious of Your Good. You are Goodness Itself intrinsically and you were born that way. The innermost core of your Being, the Primal Element of Life Itself, is Goodness. These are very important ideas to adopt since they can set you free from the mistakes in your thinking that you currently make. I know there’s a lot or rumor out there about so-called Original Sin and the works of the Devil.

The only sin there is and the only devil there is happens when you cease to think good thoughts about yourself and your life. We’ve all been affected about our concepts of self by these erroneous ideas and it’s time to put the truth in their place. I mean, come on: since your thought is causative, why wouldn’t you want to choose to think good thoughts and enjoy their good results?

3. Be Responsible For Your Self. Your Self is the most precious commodity you own. If you don’t make every effort to embrace it in it’s fullness and recognize that you, thinking, is what’s causing your life experiences as well as the appearance and condition of your body, you will never be able to take up the command and control you rightfully deserve to have over your own life. This is perhaps the most valuable portfolio you could ever manage and it deserves your complete attention.

The I of You is responsible via your thinking for everything that has happened to you. I can just hear your thoughts jumping like Godzilla on Bambi to “But what about this horrible event? I never thought that specifically.” If you hold the general belief of evil happening to you as a possibility, then that is what will manifest. If you hold the specific belief of some particular evil (say, hereditary cancer) then that will specifically happen to you. Remember Job in the Bible? He tried to explain the working of this law to us: “My own worst fears have come upon me.”

4. Learn to Forgive. If you clutch your cherished, erroneous beliefs to your own heart, you will continue to think them and re-create them. I’d recommend that you work to forgive those who have harmed you, those who have influenced you for the worst, those who were insensitive toward you. Forgive everyone for everything. I recommend that you forgive yourself for your own not knowing and get on with the business of self-acceptance and self-love. Forgiveness is not a one-time occurrence. You have to continue to do it on an on-going basis as you feel offended. I know of no way to get to a place of loving harmony while continuing to hang on to old stuff.

I place an extremely high value on the four recommendations in this article. I am officially crossing my fingers for you in the hopes that you will embrace them into your golden self and use them to shine. I know that when you love and accept yourself, it’s so much easier to effect a permanent healing. Without self love and self acceptance, the weight will return.

Pat Matson is the Wise Weight Woman who uses spiritual principles to help women overcome their struggles with body image. If you’d like more tips to help you achieve self-acceptance, get her free report, You Are Good and Perfect Right Now and I Can Prove It! at http://www.theworldofwithin.com